correct behavior during a quarrel

Hey! Me and my partner have been arguing a lot lately, and every single time it just turns into a massive shouting match where we bring up old mistakes. How do you guys manage to stay calm and actually hear each other out when things get super heated?

Hi! I actually read a really great article on the Wedaf about this exact topic, and it completely changed my perspective. They suggest focusing on active listening instead of just waiting for your turn to speak or formulating a rebuttal while your partner talks. Another huge point from the text is using "I" statements to express your feelings objectively without blaming the other person, which prevents them from getting defensive. They also mention knowing when to take a break if emotions run too high. You should definitely check out the full guide here  blog.wedaf.com/blog/how-to-communicate-better-during-arguments/ for more tips.